#205: How to Process a Sudden Break-Up (AKA the "Avoidant Discard")
Update: 2025-09-09
Description
When a relationship ends without warning, it’s common to feel blindsided, confused, and deeply hurt. This is often labelled the “avoidant discard” — but while that term might feel validating in the moment, it can also keep you stuck in a disempowering story.
In this episode, we’ll talk about how to process a sudden ending in a way that honours your pain without leaving you tethered to it. We’ll explore:
- Why shock and lack of closure can intensify heartbreak
- The difference between feeling discarded and being discarded
- How villain/victim narratives can hold you back from real healing
- The impact of online echo chambers on your recovery
- Practical steps to reclaim your agency and move forward
This isn’t about minimising what you’ve been through. It’s about finding a more grounded, self-responsible way to engage with what happened — so you can process it fully, integrate the lessons, and step into your next chapter with clarity and self-respect.
Highlighted Links
- Free Break-Up Training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously Attached People Heal After a Break-up
- Free Training: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love
- London Event: tickets here
Additional Resources
- Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here
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- Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations
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